If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. Groups like these have been formed with the sole aim of being beneficial and therapeutic to such families.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 with the aim of providing support for those affected by alcohol abuse by loved ones. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon thrives through the contributions of its members. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
The key activity of Al-Anon is to support its members - drunkards' relatives - by making them realize that they are not alone.
Alcoholism Affecting A Family
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. For an alcoholic to recover, they need the support of friends and family.
Sometimes alcoholics' family members blame themselves for their loved one's' drinking habits; they also may not fully understand why recovery should be their relative's priority. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
During the Al-teen meetings, the youth meet with their peers and share experiences and support each other at their level.
The Benefits Of Attending An Al-Anon Group
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. Al-Anon provides a key benefit and that is to help people finding others who have had similar experiences to talk about. Al-Anon meetings are held throughout the nation. Phone us on 0800 772 3971 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
Expectations For A Meeting
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. You can get all the help required if you are being affected by the drinking behaviour of a person you know.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
Everybody present in each meeting has faced the problem of alcoholism, either personally or has a family member suffering from it
While members are encouraged to speak up and discuss their problem, they are under no obligation to do so
The Meetings Usually Vary
Some may be more beneficial for you than others.
Al-Anon is by no means a religious organization
The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
The Al-Anon meetings work on the "take what you like and leave the rest" philosophy The shared stories, of experiences, hardships, and victories encourages members to know how to handle their experiences.
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. The 12 steps were adapted from the AA 12 Step program. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. These stages are:
We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
Members learn to accept alcoholism as a disease they cannot control in others.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Trying to change a person that has been affected by alcoholism can be a huge task and lead to breakdown.
After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
Made a resolution to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God in a way we perceived Him.
Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
They then come up with how they have been affected by the condition and what they might have done to hurt others or themselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Writing each problem enables them to examine them one by one.
We are entirely prepared to have god remove all these defects of character.
This is an important step because it comes after accepting in full that the recovery process is supported by a greater power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
Most people believe they caused their loved one to start drinking.
These people had better be willing to forgive and make amends to themselves.
Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
Step 10 identifies this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step is a realization that the members journey has not finished.
Members are then motivated to assist other members with what they have learned.
A Greater Understanding Of The Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon does not interfere with a member's religious convictions.